Fantasies can help you forget the stressors of day-to-day life, feel less inhibited, and zero in on what gets you hot, whether you’re alone or with another person. "Don’t underestimate the power of mental arousal," Dr. Kerner says.

Go for the G-spot gold.

The G-spot is a region of spongy tissue inside your body along the front vaginal wall, and paying attention to it can feel really good for some people. The easiest way to tap into that pleasure is by inserting your index finger (or having a partner insert theirs) a few inches into your vagina, and curling that finger in a come-hither motion toward the front wall of the vagina, a.k.a. under your belly button.

Edging is a term for delaying an orgasm when you’re really close. For instance: Maybe you’re on the brink when someone’s eating you out and you ask them to focus on your labia or vulva instead of your clit, or you slow down right when a certain position is about to bring you over the edge.

you can gently squeeze the skin of her inner thigh between your lips or even teeth, but make sure not to be too rough. Otherwise, you risk seriously hurting her. You can also suck the skin here to give her a hickey that no one will see but her.